Category Archives: Acceptance/Rejection

Selective hearing

that one criticism

Sometimes, we sail through all the wonderful compliments and affirmations we receive and instead, latch onto only the negative comments like we’re barnacles on the underside of a rusty old boat. Does this sound like you?

By accepting only the criticisms in our life, we distort the true picture of who we really are. We are both light and shade – deeply flawed yet mercifully gifted by our God to bless and uplift others in wonderful ways. (Click to tweet) God despises our sin, but He loves us. He urges us to learn from our mistakes but also to understand and embrace how loved we are, despite our brokenness.

When someone offers you feedback, practice the art of receiving it gracefully – both the good and the bad. You don’t have to agree with their assessment, but it could open your eyes to undiscovered nuances of the way you think, feel and act towards others.

If you struggle to accept praise for your hard work, or reject compliments on the gifts that God has given you, stop now and reflect on the self-portrait that hangs inside your head. Ask yourself if it’s a true likeness of who you really are.




Bugable and hugable

It’s easy to love the loveable people in our lives and so hard to love the ones who ‘bug’ us. Sometimes I have to bite my tongue when I’m around someone who irritates me.

Yet God calls all of us who follow Him to love others. It’s His second greatest command. And what better reason to dig deeper into our reserves of love and grace and generosity than to remember that we constantly receive God’s favour despite our own sinful and undeserving ways.

Yep, even if we have the best of intentions, we are often hypocritical, judgemental and downright selfish. But even though God sees all of our ‘bugable’ qualities, amazingly He opens his arms to us time after time after time. Amazing love!

The truth is, I often feel more bugable than hugable. It’s such a relief and a joy when people welcome me and accept me despite our differences. In fact, when people embrace me in such a way, their love-in-action affirms my God-given worth. This increases my confidence and as a happy by-product, my ‘light’ shines brighter to others.

Look for the hugable, not just the bugable, in the people you meet. (Click to tweet) Everyone needs to be reminded that they have worth in God’s eyes.

We love because He first loved us.
– 1 John 4:19

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Criticism should be gentle

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